I'm bothered by the fact that I can't go anywhere to discuss trans issues as a transmasculine AFAB without being labeled a transphobe by either heteronormative & queer identifying women or AMAB transwomen, just for trying to discuss matters specific to my community that, until they swoop in tossing the word "transphobe!" like glitter at a drag show, I have tons of support and agreement on.
It's felt for a long time like AMAB people & their pickme allies are just trying to erase anyone from the LGBTQ/Queer community that isn't MTF, AMAB or an obedient, amenable ally who agrees with everything they say. It's absolutely ridiculous to me that grown adults think they can label someone else as a transphobe based on their PFP & opinions without even taking a second to discuss with that person why they have those opinions- and seemingly 0 realization that they're *opinions* and usually based on personal experience.
It keeps giving "Don't talk about things that aren't about me & mine, or that don't support US."
Never in my life has the trans/queer community been so skewed in favor of MTFs at the expense of AFAB queer people and transmen & it's absolutely because AMAB people & transwomen cannot stop coming into FTM/AFAB spaces to police dialogue that genuinely isn't about and doesn't include them- then they turn right around and tell FTMs/AFABS that "media representation isn't everything!" while having more positive media representation in the past 5 years than the entire queer community combined has had in the past *5 decades*.
It's not "transphobic" to point out that the "trans/queer acceptance" movement is focused on gay men, AMABs & transwomen anymore, it's an observation of reality & a statement of fact.
This is why I keep my s**t to myself for now, I can't afford any gender-affirming care and on top of that I do not have a supportive family, so I'm trapped in the closet and unable to do anything about it- yet thanks to the MTF AMAB comm I don't have a community to find support because highkey it feels like they want all the support & visibility for themselves.
I just need *one* space for AFAB/FTM/NB people to gather and feel safe to discuss issues and opinions that affect US without some Mean Girls-coded catty b***h swooping in to call us names and bully us out of communicating with each other bc they think us having that space and those discussions is "punching down on transwomen" or "transphobic" just because it doesn't include them AND put them on a pedestal.
The trans community isn't just MTFs & drag queens, but as an AFAB transperson I feel like I don't have a community bc I'm not a female-identified queer, a heteronormative female ally, or a transwoman.
It feels like transmen & nonbinary AFABs who don't fit into mushy gay stereotypes perpetuated by AMABS & gay men are no longer welcome in the trans community and forbidden from having our own.
