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	Ninja-ing my way through Life
	Ninja-ing my way through Life

	Yeah, it's me again
	Yeah, it's me again


Yeah, I'm back. Effi didn't prod me to blog this time though. Turns out my mom emailed all my teachers asking for my exam marks. I didn't do as well as I thought I did, and in certain cases I did just as bad as I knew I did. This was just for french and civics though. Turns out my mum had a lovely phone conversation with Madame Robitai about my performance in every possible aspect of my life. She said glowing things about me and then said my marks 'disappointed' her because she 'knew' I could do better. Well, then they started layin' onto me. About how I was a bright and brilliant kid and they were glad that when we moved here I got into a good crowd of intelligent people. But how my marks were not a reflection of that and they asked why I didn't do well. I tried the normal I dunno's and I figured I did better'n that I guess I didn't. Didn't work, so I figured I'd try this newfangled thing : The truth. I told them why I didnt do well in those certain courses, about why my marks had dropped in a few of my other courses. I told them it was because I had no motivation. Because I didn't care about those courses. Because I thought the courses were stupid and that it was completely my fault, but I knew they wouldn't understand and how it wasn't my fault that the marks weren't their own reward anymore. Big mistake, I was right, they didn't understand. So I got to sit there and take it, all the st about how civics was an important course and that there wasn't anything I could do about it but i was suppossed to do well even if I didn't give a damn. And then they started to threaten me. ~Loss of privilages, ~Less social outings. ~No Montreal trip, ~No trip to Cleveland. ~Make me quite my job, ~Make me quit BWWE, ~Make me quit band. ~Less friends ~They threatened to make me break up with Scott. They said that dreaded line. "It was for my own good ". Then they let me go. I couldn't help it, I really couldn't. I sat in my room and cried for a bit. My dad then has the nerve to freggin' come in and ask me why the hell I'm crying. I said nothing, that it didn't matter. I told him to go away. He didn't. I re-explained the entire thing to him. He said I was being emotional, wuote him "A bunch of freaking hormones". I said that was fine, he could just go away. He left with a "Fine, I'll leave you have your little melodrama moment". Melodrama my a. Well I learned today that it really doesn't matter if I stand up for myself or I'm a doormat, my parents lay into me when they want to and attack at the few things in my life that are important. And I'll tell you, it's not Cleveland or band. They don't understand, they'll never understand. Ever. They say they understand what I'm going through, but they don't. They don't understand that if I don't like the material I'm not motivated to do well. They don't understand how much my friends and Scott mean to me. They just don't. I don't know why they even want to try. Buggers. Beccy [Tetris.Ninja] · Thu Mar 03, 2005 @ 12:45am · 7 Comments


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	Them are bi@tches. Offline Mini Effi · Community Member · Thu Mar 03, 2005 @ 03:26am


	wait.. are those things being enforced? or just trheatened should you fail to live up to something? or what? sweatdrop Offline bentbacktulips · Community Member · Thu Mar 03, 2005 @ 04:22am


	The less privilages, less social/friends is being enforced. Everything else is teh threats of doom. Offline [Tetris.Ninja] · Community Member · Thu Mar 03, 2005 @ 12:06pm


	I can see their motive, but the way they follow through with this is just ... hugs hugs hugs heart Offline bittersweet_symphony · Community Member · Thu Mar 03, 2005 @ 09:37pm


	Some of it I can understand, some of it is harsh harsh HARSH. They can't make you break up with Scott, and band is a course. I can see the loss of priveleges, but they can't make you have less friends. I mean, as long as I want you be your friend and you want to be my friend, nobody can really do anything about it, and you still see us at school and stuff. But yeah. My parents threaten me with not going on trips or whatever all the time. I guess 'cause this is the first time it's happened to you its a shock. nods And I sympathize with you. It sucks. A lot. And I know you're convinced they don't know how you feel, and it may be true. But also remember that sometimes it takes adults a while to remember what its like to be a teenager, 'cause its been so long. You have to give them patience. And maybe, perhaps theres the slight, chance that they know what your going through, and are trying to give you motivation in the only way they know how. Maybe the other ways they've tried have fallen through, so they're falling back on the good ol' 'threaten-them-and-they'll-listen' routine. They may be exasperated. (continued in next comment) Offline strawberry jelly · Community Member · Thu Mar 03, 2005 @ 10:51pm


	Think about it this way You're a mother of a teenager who is always out with her friends and whom you barely see. You want to talk to her but you're not sure how. And then her marks start dropping mysteriously. The only (seemingly) change is that she's started spending all her times with friends and boyfriend, and zip time with her family (that isn't forced.) You connect two and two and comes to the conclusion that more time with friends = less marks. I obviously dont know for sure if this is the situation, but you get the picture (I hope). I don't think they're trying to be mean, but trying to motivate you the only way the have left. shrugs Or perhaps they think they've been too easy on you in the past and decided to 'buck up' or something, and have gone way overboard 'cause they don't know how harsh they should be. I'm not agreeing with their punishments, but merely playing devil's advocate. "You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view... until you climb in his skin and walk around in it." - Atticus Finch Offline strawberry jelly · Community Member · Thu Mar 03, 2005 @ 10:52pm


	As you can tell, my last comment was posted late at night when i was eniterly out of focus and tired. It makes sense, ish? I, after actually re-reading the entry, have decided I agree with your parents. I know it sounds harsh but they have a very accurate and on the spot assumption. The courses you are taking were created because there is some importance in them. Even the ones that seem pointless hold something. Take careers, if you paid attantion maybe you would have a better idea of what to plan or what courses you want instead of replying totally on your parents, which it sounds like you have been doing. That class, along with civics, taught you the proper way of debating and the possible career choices. It might have been help if you want out of immersion. You could have debated with your parents your thoughts about immersion and the career choice you want. It might have been a great help. I think your parents understand better than you do right now. They have been through highschool and university therefore they know wha5t needs to be done in order to succeed. Give them a chance to express themselves without automatically deciding they are trying to kill your social life. This is the worst way to try to prove you aren't a doormat. You set yourself up for this failure. You had poor grades and your excuse for them was "I don't like the courses". Of course they weren't going to just accept that. Not everything you do in life will be a joy and they want to teach you that you have to work at everything in order to fully succeed. Maybe you should try convincing them on something else by backing it up with facts not whining at them about how they don't understand. Don't blame your problems on them. Offline Mini Effi · Community Member · Fri Mar 04, 2005 @ 12:25am

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