"You want to be confident and feel confident, but what if you're starting with little or no confidence? How do you get from Point A to Point B? True self-confidence isn't an overnight acquisition. It takes dedication to realize you are a good human being that is worthy of respect and love.
Steps:
1.) Observe your insecurities. What's holding you back? What's hurting your confidence? This could be anything from acne, to regrets, to emotional abuse (past or present) from a loved one. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it.
2.) Chip away at your obstacles, little by little. There's no quick fix here--anything that promises to make you feel better is only temporary and might leave you feeling worse, as if you're losing the battle. Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve those issues before you can be happy.
3.) Remember that nobody is perfect. Every once in a while the seemingly most beautiful and popular people get deceived or have hidden insecurities. At one point in each of our lives, we always feel that we lack something. That is the reality of life.
4.) Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, and then focus on your accomplishments. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. While you're at it, give yourself credit for your general success in life. No one else is responsible for your achievements. Did anyone put a gun to your head and force you to go to work/school/practice today? Your parents brought you into this world, but that is all. You chose to do everything from the point of your first conscious adult thought. Inferiority is just a state of mind. You determine who you are.
5.) Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Being content and finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.
6.) Be Positive, even if you don't feel positive. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior--they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.
7.) Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.
8.) Fake it. Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident might actually make you believe it. Pretend you're a completely confident version of you; go through the motions and see how you feel.
9.) Express yourself, whether it's through art, music, writing, etc. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and strengths. You can develop and excel in yours. If it's difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain love to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too and take some lessons or join an enthusiasts club. When you're following your passion, not only will it have a therapeutic effect, but you'll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self confidence. Plus, adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will increase your chances of meeting compatible friends!
10.)Stick to your principles. It might be tough, but if you don't have something you can believe in, you don't have anything. No matter what's happened in your life, you can always lay claim to the fact that from this day forward, you've followed your principles to the best of your ability.
Tips:
Exercise and eat healthy. Exercise raises adrenaline and makes one feel happier and healthier. It is certainly an easy and effective way to boost your self-confidence.
When you're feeling superbly insecure, write down a list of things that are good about you. Then read the list back. You'd be surprised at what you can come up with.
Know the difference between jealousy and envy; whilst jealousy is wishing you had something that someone else does, envy is wishing that you had it and they didn't. Learn to turn jealousy into a motive to achieve.
Don't be afraid to push yourself a bit - a little bit of pressure can actually show just how good you are!
Take a wilderness experience course such as those found at Outward Bound or NOLS. Learning how to survive in the wilderness will build your confidence in other areas of life too. You can also try taking a martial arts or fitness class/course (or both). This will help build confidence and strength.
Warnings:
Don't get wrapped up in your mistakes and dwell on bad points; they can contrast your good points or even give you something to improve. There's no feeling like being good at something you were really bad at.
Don't confuse what you have with who you are. People degrade their self worth when comparing possessions.
Surround yourself with nurturing friends, not overly critical individuals who make you feel inadequate or insecure. This could do great harm and damage to your self confidence."
(disclaimer:i didn't write this,just found it.don't mix the two up)
