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Lately I haven't been happy with my mood, I just didn't seem to be myself and I couldn't figure out why I was acting that way. I eventually decided to take a walk on the beach, so I'd have some quiet time to myself to try to figure out what was up with me. AND IT WORKED! Anyway, I've been realizing that I haven't felt much sympathy for people's problems like I usually do, and I didn't really care. I hated that state of mind, but I figured out why I was like that. My sour mood was due to "maturity". I say "maturity" because it isn't very mature at all, but it is a phase that most go through when they enter adulthood. Allow me to explain, I'm pretty sure that all of you out there have had at least one moment where you can't believe how emotionless your parents are and you think that they just don't understand what you're going through. You couldn't be more wrong. Adults know exactly how you feel, because they went through very similar problems when they were teenagers. It happens to probably every teenager, due to hormones and the more responsibility and openness to reality that we are entitled to. It is in our teenage years that we learn about what the world is really about, and how our childish dreams and wishes can never become reality. Anyway, there is also another phase that I'm not quite sure when it happens, but it happens near adulthood or soon after. It's a time when you realize that life isn't as bad as you thought it was, and you learn to accept mistakes and get over them. You also learn that your life isn't as bad as you thought it was.
There comes a price when you reach this phase, which I have realized as of late. When you reach this frame of mind, you realize that most people will learn to cope with their problems and will no longer need help. You know that it actuall IS just a phase, and not that much of a problem. When you realize this, you start to feel as though teenagers don't need to be helped, because they will get over it. I became like this without even realizing it, and I was judging teenagers as a majority of being little babies. However, I realized that how I was acting was in no way how I wanted to be.
Furthermore, learning this taught me a lot about how the world works. It is human nature to crave attention, and it reaches it's peek at the teenage level. When we were kids we did little things for attention, such as crying or just acting weird. When we become teenagers and are given less restrictions (though sometimes it doesn't seem like that, but if you think about it hard enough we actually do) we crave attention even more since we're no longer as close in family. It is then where we act out for attention the most, and sometimes take it to extremes. A lot of people also try to explain to others how hard their lives are just to get people to give them attention. Mind you, I'm no better, I did the same thing.
Now this is where it all falls together. Adults know that you're going through a hard time and complain and all that, but remember that they have "matured" and believe it to only be a phase that you will get over, so most of the time they do nothing to help. So this is when children and parents have their falling out, and it isn't made better again (if ever) until the child reaches the "mature" level and realizes why the parents didn't do much. Sometimes we never recover, and the hatred towards our parents is everlasting. Anyway, so since adults don't give the teenagers attention the teenagers normally just act more out of control until they finally get the attention, but by then they're really messed up to the point that negativety is a good thing.
Anyway, what I have realized from this is that even though it normally is just a phase, teenagers still need to be helped. Adults believe that by not helping their children they may "mature" faster by learning that thinking their lives are so bad and complaining about it won't solve anything. This is not a good thing, because it shouldn't be expected that teenagers should be that mature at such an age. I was stupid to believe that everyong should just grow up, but I now know that I was asking the impossible, and therefore I will continue helping out and having sympathy as I use to. Hopefully I will not act so stubborn in the future.

Anyhoo, that's what I realized during my 1 hour walk on the beach. I swear, everytime I take a long walk in silence and get to thinking about behavior and actions, I learn so much. Mind you, this may not be accurate and people may disagree, but it's how I feel. If you all ever start hating your actions, just take a walk and try to analyze why you're acting like that, instead of just getting upset over the actions, it'll both make you feel much better as well as it might teach you something valuable.