#10: "You hate men." This is not true. Most of my friends are men. And if it WERE true, I don't see how it would make me asexual..
#9: "You can't get a man." This is not true either. I have had many propositions for everything from sex to long-term relationships, and I venture to say a line would form if I announced I wanted a man THAT way.
#8: "You have a hormone problem." I'd rephrase that to say "I have a low production of hormones," and it might be true. I do not consider it a problem. If I WANTED to have the opportunity to become twitterpated, I might request a libido-enhancing drug, but I don't see any PROBLEM here.
#7: "You're overly involved in your own busy life." I accept that "life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans" (John Lennon). I AM very busy, but what takes up my time varies from month to month. It could easily vary in this direction if I was so inclined--I would never turn down the possibility of happiness if I did indeed think a situation promised it.
#6: "You just never had me in your bed." A fairly common comment cocky males make. Stupid people really do think that I just haven't been tagged by the right stud, when in fact the "problem" is that I don't find studs attractive. They seem to answer this by drawing attention to . . . how studly they are. It's a vicious cycle that leaves them standing there flexing their muscles and me running to my computer to write an article mentioning how stupid they are.
#5: "You are afraid of getting into a relationship." I should probably point out that I have many close relationships with other people, many of whom are male. I don't have intimacy issues. I just don't appreciate sexual relationships and consider myself outside the whole phenomenon.
#4: "You were sexually abused as a child." A very common suggestion. An entirely untrue suggestion. Next.
#3: "You are a lesbian." For some reason people can understand that I'm not interested in penises, but only if they can project my hypothetical feelings onto a buried desire for vaginas. Being gay is fairly acceptable these days--actually, much more so than being nonsexual--so I venture to say if I WAS a lesbian I'd come out. It just isn't the case.
#2: "You just haven't met the right guy." Maybe I haven't. But it's not fair to assume that there is one, or that my life won't be complete unless I do meet him.
#1: "Aww, did you just get out of a bad relationship?" That's the most common suggestion--I've obviously been hurt, scarred by a bad experience, and have sworn off men as a result. No.
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I personally hate being lumped in with the celibates.
Celibates want sex. They're just choosing not to have it, for whatever religious or social reason they choose. Whether it's safer, or is going to promote a better relationship, whatevs. They are still CHOOSING to not act on what they want.
I'm pretty sure I didn't choose. I just am who I am.
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Hope this was whiny enough for you, Lezbro.
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I relate most to the bold ones.
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 RainbowJimmy · Thu Jun 19, 2008 @ 06:11pm · 0 Comments |
